The Seven Secrets of a Confident & Secure Woman

By Scott Smallwood

1. A confident & secure woman REPOSITIONS HERSELF

A confident woman never forgets the one thing that never changes –THINGS CONSTANTLY CHANGE.

With the winds of change ever blowing, a secure woman realizes that she may not currently possess all the tools that will take her to her goal, but she’s always ready to learn what she needs to know in order to get there. This may mean going back to school, changing job or vocations or even moving to a different location, but she is ready, willing and able to adapt to changing circumstances.

2. A confident & secure woman KNOWS HOW TO GIVE AND TAKE

A confident woman understands that the gift is in the giving. She knows the laws that tell her what she gives will return to her several times over. She will give her time, energy and even her heart to those who need her. However, she also knows that she is not a super human and she does not over-extend herself. She regularly takes time for herself! She also recognizes that she has limits and, at times, finds herself in a position of needing assistance and is not afraid to ask for what she needs.

3. A confident & secure woman LIVES IN THE PRESENT

Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future is the bread of idleness that a confident woman refuses to eat. When recalling the past, she does not allow herself to dwell there but, rather, refocuses on the here and now. She understands that her past experiences, whether joyful or painful, are a part of her and have made her the confident person that she is today. She learns from the past and uses that information for current decision making. She has hopes for the future and engages in the occasional daydream while keeping herself solidly in the present tense of her life.

4. A confident & secure woman KEEPS HERE EYE ON THE PRIZE

Not everything we do comes up roses. To expect perfection is cavalier, but to know that mistakes are a part of the journey is wisdom. This knowledge allows the confident woman to refuse to pity herself when something doesn’t turn out as she’d hoped or expected it would.

5. A confident & secure woman KNOWS HOW TO SAY NO

Women have too little time and too much responsibility. The demands of jobs, child care, household duties, etc. are often draining. Having time to herself seems to be a far-fetched dream for many women.

The confident woman knows her limits and her need for self care. She understands that in order to be able to accomplish all that she wants/needs to do, she MUST have adequate energy reserves from which to draw. While sympathetic and even flattered when her phone rings off the hook with others making requests of her, she is able to pick and choose those people or causes to which/whom she will devote her time and energy. She knows when she needs to politely decline so that she will have time to recharge herself or to ward off becoming overwhelmed. She also does not feel a need to offer apologies or excuses for needing to do so.

6. A confident & secure woman TRUSTS HER INNER VOICE

While she may occasionally feel uncertain or seek the counsel of others, the confident woman knows deep down that her own heart will give her the direction she needs. While this intuition may be said to be a characteristic of all women, it is one that becomes refined only with age, wisdom and experience. The secure woman will carefully consider all the information at her disposal, seek advice from those she respects and then turn to that little voice inside of herself and become her own best counsel.

7. A confident & secure woman DOESN’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF

If we allow ourselves to think too much about something or consider every little thing that could possibly come up or go awry, we can soon make mountains out of molehills. The secure woman is able to separate the chaff from the grain and focus only on those things of primary concern to her in any situation. She does not micro manage herself or her affairs. Rather, she focuses on the broader picture along with the key ingredients that are needed to solve her problem or reach her goal. She possesses inner strength and the wisdom to be able to create, change and adapt as necessary.

Scott Smallwood is the creator and founder of Honest To God Coaching of bad relationships, healthy relationships a healing and transformative coaching program exclusively for women.

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A Woman's Self-Worth is a Woman's Self-Survival!

A Woman's Self-Worth is a Woman's Self-Survival!

By Dorothy Lafrinere

Hey all you beautiful people. I hope that everyone is doing the best that they can with what life has given them. Keep in mind we only have this one life to live and that every second that goes unappreciated is gone forever. Also keep in mind that a Woman`s Self-Worth is a Woman`s Self Survival!

Women are faced with so many more challenges these days and life just seems to really tug at our self-esteem and self-worth.

We go from feeling on top of the world, to feeling like yesterdays floor rag in just one wrong word.

There are so many of us that truly see ugly when we look into the mirror, why is that?

No matter what our lovers or family or even our friends tell us, we still only see ugly every time we look at our reflection.

Where did life go wrong to turn our brains, our thoughts and our visions against ourselves?

Why do we have to try and explain our hormones, I mean is it not enough that we have to deal with the roller-coaster symptoms that plague us monthly?

Why do we have to feel guilty for being a women?

Why do only women bleed?

Why do we get stereotyped because we feel emotions, emotions that we were born with?

Why do young women cut themselves?

Is it because they can only experience real feelings when they do this?

Is it that they feel control over that one thing in their lives?

Do they do it out of a form of punishment, that they feel they deserve because just maybe somewhere in their lives they were wronged and could not stop the wrong?

Why do they not see that there are people in this world that do care and that do want to share their feelings with them?

Is there not enough self-help books, therapists, or positive information sites available to people in need, that they have to resort to destroying themselves due to a void that cannot be filled?

Why do women spend thousands of dollars because they feel that natural aging is wrong and something to be discarded or replaced?

Why do women starve themselves?

Is it to fit into too small of clothing?

Is it to fit a worlds idea of what is acceptable now?

Or is it to feel good about themselves?

I wish that I had all the answers to these questions.

I wish that I could save every woman on this planet from emotional suffering.

I wish that I could tell each and every one of you exactly what you need to hear every time we speak to each other, that being "You have Self-Worth and it is your Self Survival".

I wish that you never had to be hurt or lied to or deceived by anyone.

But mostly I wish that women could fall in love with who they are and never, ever lose that thought.

Life is not funny, people have said that it is. I do not see anything funny about it, with all the diseases and sufferings that people have to endure, I hear no laughing.

I do not see anything funny about addictions to drugs, pornography, alcohol, child abuse, spousal abuse, self abuse, eating disorders, or any other horrible life imprisoning issue.

War is certainly not something to laugh about, watching children starve on television really is not funny, nor does listening to how our education system has failed our future warrant a smile either.

I wish I could say, "poof " and all of this garbage that life has presented to us, would just turn into a field of beautiful flowers.

Do you ever feel like you are going ten steps forward and fifty backwards?

Do you ever feel like you just figured everything out and then one thing totally turns that upside down?

Don`t you just hate that?

I certainly do, I hate all of the negative things that try to take space in my brain and twist it to death.

Do you ever just want to turn your on button off, so that you can sleep just one night without having a nightmare or waking up feeling like, what is good in your life can be stolen away from you at any second?

Do you ever wonder why we are being challenged with all of this turmoil?

I have and I spend every second of my day, trying to figure out ways to help women not feel at least one of these things that I have stated above.

This is why I have created womensselfesteem.com. I have tried to make a small little corner in this unsafe world a safe place available to all women, that just need that little bit of time out in their day to not feel worry or ugly.

There is not one women in this world that is not worth it.

There is not one women in this world that should go on a second longer without the knowledge of how, "A Women`s Self-Worth is a Women`s Self Survival".

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One Flaw In Women

Women have strengths that amaze men.

They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy.

They smile when they want to scream.

They sing when they want to cry.

They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous.

They fight for what they believe in.

They stand up to injustice.

They don't take "no" for an answer when they believe there is a better solution. They go without so their family can have They go to the doctor with a frightened friend. They love unconditionally. They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards. They are happy when they hear about a birth or a wedding. Their hearts break when a friend dies. They grieve at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left. They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart. Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors. They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you. The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning. They bring joy, hope and love. They have compassion and ideas. They give moral support to their family and friends. Women have vital things to say and everything to give. HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN, IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.

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As I have said many, many times, we, women must know our worth, taste our worth, feel our worth, see our worth, but most of of we women must SHOW our worth. How else will the world even begin to understand, 'A WOMANS WORTH' and what it means to her Self Survival!

My experiences throughout my life have built my character and made me an independent women. My experiences regarding self-esteem & the empowerment of women have directed my desires and passions toward creating a wonderful website for all the women! http://www.womensselfesteem.com

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